Strap on for a ride - Let’s talk strap-ons!

Strap on for a ride -Let’s talk strap-ons!

Strap-ons are such a versatile sex toy. They can be used by gay women to penetrate their partners, by transgender men for penetrative sex, and even by straight females for ‘pegging’ their boyfriends, really by anyone to penetrate anyone.

Buying a strap-on:First things first; purchase a strap and a dildo. The dildo does not have to actually look like a penis. The best thing to do is to bring your partner with you to go dildo shopping and decide on something you both like! A good idea is ‘the wearer picks the colour and the receiver picks the size’.  Don’t be afraid to spend a little bit of money and purchase a quality strap and dildo. There is nothing worse than being mid-sex and having the strap break!

Foreplay is key:Definitely do not start your sex with the strap straight away. Foreplay is extremely important in all sex, but especially strap-on sex. Sex is great when it’s intimate so KISS KISS KISS! There’s not much better than a good make-out session to get you going.  Don’t be afraid to go down on your partner (with their consent) for an amount of time to get them worked up, aroused, and ready for penetration. This can also lead to some finger play, whether that be vaginally or anal, again to become more aroused.

What to expect with strap-on sex:The only downside to using a strap-on is the awkward 30 seconds it takes to get up and put it on! The reality is, you’ll have to have a small break from fooling around to put on the strap. It may be awkward when you first put on the strap. It may feel a tad foreign to be wearing a ‘penis’ especially if you are dealing with body, gender or sexuality dysphoria.

Lube can be your best friend:Certain dildos may dry out your vagina or anus and might need a little help to slide in and out. Water-based lubes are pretty versatile and tend to be the best choice if you’re using silicone-based dildos as silicone-based lube will start to break down silicone-based toys. So don’t be afraid to add some extra wetness to make it easier for the strap to penetrate.

Top or bottom? Bottom or top?Probably the most common questions asked about gay relationships are, who is at the top and who is at the bottom? Don’t be afraid to change who gives and who receives every now and again. There is also the option of a ‘strapless strap-on’ with essentially gives penetration to both parties. There is a small, rounded part, shaped like a bulb, which goes inside the giver, and a larger more dildo-shaped part which goes inside the receiver. The way this sits inside the giver means no strap is needed and both parties will receive penetration!

Tips: Some tips to keep in mind before, after, and during strap-on sex:

• Wear the strap beforehand to get used to the feel.
• Don’t be afraid to watch some videos (porn) and get an idea of how to use it.
• Use your hands to adjust where it’s sitting inside of you or your partner.
• Start off in easy positions then work your way towards harder ones.
• Stop worrying about what you look like and concentrate on how it feels.
• Ask your partner questions about how it feels and what they want you to do.
• Practice thrusting.
• Don’t be scared to have a laugh if it all goes wrong at first.

Enjoy the fun times ahead

Funtasia Sexpert Wagga