Can Sex Toys help me with Premature Ejcaulation? How to stop cumming too quickly with a quick purchase

Premature ejaculation is the single most common sex issue in the world. You may feel that you cannot control when you ejaculate. This lack of control creates anxiety around your sexual performance with a partner, which can worsen the issue. 

Can you control premature ejaculation with a sex toy? The short answer is, yes, some sex toys can help you overcome premature ejaculation in the short term. But for long-term fixes, you'll have to seek professional advice. 

Today we're here to teach you about premature ejaculation and ways to prevent cumming too quickly. We'll walk you through which sex toys can help you stop cumming too fast and how to use them. 

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is also known as uncontrolled ejaculation or early ejaculation. 

All these terms refer to when you experience ejaculation outside your control and earlier than you'd like. For some men, ejaculation can happen in seconds after experiencing sexual touch. For others, it may just feel like you don't have complete control over when you cum. 

Why is this such a big deal?

Most of us have been conditioned to assume that lasting longer in bed means better sex. 

For many, this may be true.

Having control over ejaculation can help you bring your partner(s) more sexual satisfaction. 

It can be embarrassing, especially in first-time sexual scenarios with new partners. You ejaculate as soon as you start to engage in the activity. This can dampen the whole sexual experience.

Premature ejaculation can be split into two types lifelong and acquired.

The first name implies that you've always had this issue with premature ejaculation. Meanwhile, acquired premature ejaculation is a recent or later development in your sexual life. 

Whether it's lifelong or acquired will likely indicate the potential cause. 

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

As always, there is no single answer to what causes premature ejaculation. It is often a combination of psychological and emotional factors that influence you. Other than that, it may be that your masturbation habits have been destructive without you noticing it. 

For others, it may be a medical matter that needs a medical diagnosis. 

The underlying cause likely needs professional help from a sex coach or medical professional.

Psychological & emotional causes of premature ejaculation

The most common cause of premature ejaculation is what is happening between your ears. Not what's happening with your penis.

Sex is an incredibly vulnerable experience.  Especially if you're not as experienced as you think you should be. 

Countless psychological or emotional factors can influence your orgasm and ejaculation. Here are some of the most common ones:

• Worrying about cumming too early can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Meaning you ejaculate out of fear of ejaculating. 
• You were raised in a conservative or religious household making you ashamed of all sexual activity.
• First-time nerves - sure, you may have had sex before, but you've never had sex with this person. You need time to get comfortable with this new partner before you have better control over your orgasm. 
• Stress and anxiety about your sexual "performance" can also be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Especially if you watch a lot of porn and have damaging expectations of sex, you'll act like your worst enemy. 
• Other people around - if you don't live alone, are in a busy place, or have others nearby, it will likely influence your ejaculation control. The idea of being watched by others can be a terrifying and overwhelming experience. 

There are countless other reasons your mental health impacts your ejaculatory control. But, there may be other things that don't require professional help, making you ejaculate early.

Masturbation habits

Harmful masturbation habits are a prevalent reason for premature ejaculation. Masturbation informs all of your sexual habits, expectations, and experiences. How you masturbate will influence how you have sex with others.

So, if you're trying to have as many quick orgasms as possible in your daily life, guess what happens with other people?

That's right—the same thing. 

Or maybe you ejaculate quickly because you're afraid of getting caught, or you are used to the fear of getting caught. Then your sexual habits will form around all of this. Or perhaps you want to get things over with as soon as possible when you're alone. Guess what your body's expectation will be?

The way you masturbate is critical for your sexual development. If you're struggling with premature ejaculation, try edging more often and taking your time. These two things will likely enhance your ejaculatory control with practice.

Medical Causes for premature ejaculation

Countless medical reasons could be causing your uncontrolled ejaculation.

If you suffer from lifelong premature ejaculation, you may want to speak with a urologist or other sexual medical professional. They can help you find the medical cause underlying your premature ejaculation. 

Some common medical causes are:

• Hormonal imbalances
• Swelling in the prostate or urethra
• Irregular brain chemicals

It could be more than one of these causes as well. You never know until you eliminate the potential medical reasons for your premature ejaculation. 

Can Sex Toys Help me with Premature Ejaculation?

The short answer here is yes. Some sex toys can help you control your ejaculatory experience in bed and alone. We've compiled a list of some of our sexologist-approved ways to prevent cumming too quickly. 

Cock rings and premature ejaculation

These are the most common and apparent choices to control your orgasmic experience better. 

Cock rings are a simple device. You can stretch them to fit at the base of the penis, behind the testicles, or both.

What cock rings do is constrict the penis, reducing sensation, which can help you last longer. The penis ring also traps the blood in your penis, making your erection firmer and often feel much bigger.

The only issue with cock rings is choosing the correct size. Make sure you start with a stretchy silicone set to determine which size works well for you. 

Also, remember to not wear a cock ring for more than 30 minutes at a time. If you experience any discomfort, then switch to a larger size. 

Fleshlights and pocket pussies

Using a Fleshlight or pocket pussy when you cum too fast is ideal. Especially if you're not very "experienced" sexually. Getting familiar with the sensations of sex can help remove some novelty, thus helping you control your ejaculation experience. 

Certain Fleshlights are even designed to help you with premature ejaculation, such as this set here. 

Pocket pussies and other masturbation aides will help you get familiar with the feeling of penetrative sex while also making your masturbation more interesting. 

Numbing creams and sprays

If this is a one-time hook-up or something similar, then a numbing cream or spray can be a good option for you. However, if you rely on these numbing creams and sprays, your premature ejaculation will get worse over time. You become accustomed to what sex feels like when you're partially numbed. That means when you have sex without it, it'll feel way more arousing and enticing. Thus, worsening the issue.

Also, some numbing creams and sprays can spread to your partner. This spread can lead to them to feel fewer sensations during sex and detracting from their sexual experience. 

So using numbing creams and sprays for premature ejaculation are great for short-term use and wearing underneath a condom. But, these will likely be damaging in the long run. 

Other Options for Curing Premature Ejaculation

An adult store like Funtasia may not have a permanent cure for premature ejaculation, but we can help. We have a massive selection of sex toys and other adult products to help you with your sexual experience. 

If you want help with your premature ejaculation before you seek medical advice, try popping into one of our three adult sex store locations. You can speak with one of our resident Sexperts to help pick the right toy for your premature ejaculation. 

 

Get out there, Get in there, and Get off there!

Elaine S. Turner

Resident Sexologist | Sex, Dating, and Relatioship Coach | Pleasure Product Expert

www.SexWithElaine.com

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